Advice for those who are interested

I haven’t done a challenge for awhile, and the one I saw today seem like it would be nice as a, trying to get the cobwebs out of my fingers. Well no, scratch that: more like get the cobwebs out of my brain because lately my fingers in my job cannot stop typing at all with, all the calls I get, the documentation, the chats, and well, everything else I type. For now, here, I’m fine and my fingers are not angry at me.

But anyways, here is the skinny on the advise thing: I was given tons of advice when I was a young boy, about treating people right, about speaking correctly, about being a good person and not being a shithead that embarrasses people the way that, sadly, people around me did to me. And well, I am happy that I turned out to be a rather weird, but honestly, good person. I think sadly, I might have come out to be too good; maybe because of my lack of friends or, my lack of doing too many things different growing up, and add to that, an ideology that makes you brain dead and scared to be alive because, well, you can end up getting put in a spit and burning alive forever…definitely didn’t help. Thank you college, divorce and YouTube.

But that isn’t the advice I’m interested in giving, but instead, I’m here to give you guys a bit of practical advice that, I am now suddenly decided this year to follow because I am an idiot and I didn’t know much better many years ago. And here it is…

Do not wait until you are an adult to decide what you want to do when you grow up.

I have been alive for 3 decades now, and I can say that I’ve been lucky that non of my problems growing up were too traumatic or terrible in comparison to many others. But here is something I realized when I started doing research this week on CompTIA certifications I want to get, and wanting to advance at my job and not stay doing the same thing another 10 years like last time. And it’s that I am pretty under prepared in my life to be a fully functional and HAPPY adult. Because I have the functional part down, with me working every day, never being late, paying all my bills and losing weight to feel physically better and not have stomach problems and agitate these gallstones I need removed. But as a HAPPY functional adult? Am I Happy? And why is that?

Well maybe it’s because I haven’t saved much of anything to move out of the overpriced apartment, or the fact that I don’t have health insurance because if I did get it, I would be making pittens and not being able to live, or the fact that I also don’t have a career. I have a job, not a career; a career is what you are passionate about and you do it because that is what you prepared yourself for. I was in my last year in high school, and I didn’t know what I wanted to do or where to go to college. I took the closest one to my house, and did something with computers because…I liked computers. That’s it. Nothing else came about that, and now as a functional adult, I am doing something to keep myself alive, and that is about it. I am, however, very happy with my job right now, and I will stay there over not having a job for sure; but I spent 9 1\2 years doing what I am doing now, and nothing else happened. I could have gone to college when my job could have helped me pay it and could have gotten my certifications, instead of now, where I have to take them out of my own pocket. After I got divorced, I figured I could start over and I would be able to find my calling and I thought I did with drawing, and I haven’t done much of that either. I don’t know whether it’s because my brain is always tired coming home or it’s because I’m trying to figure out what to do takes all my time nowadays.

Well, my advice is don’t become me. Don’t become an insecure, lonely, ackward, semi-broke, unhealthy, 30 year old in an apartment, with no one to talk to. Instead, research what you want to do, what you want to be, talk with people and work hard at it. And have people around you give you encouragement and have them be your rocks. I didn’t have rocks. I had caring parents, but I think they didn’t think much of me growing up, whereas my brother had a direction and I didn’t. Why waste your time on no potential where you can focus on making someone that matters into a somebody, right? Don’t let your good years go to waste to get started with life NOW. Don’t become me. Please, I am begging you! If you want to do something, go do it, and if it doesn’t work, find something else and become that. You want to be a doctor, be a doctor! You want to design games, design games! Easier said than done, but at least do it! And never stay quiet and ask for help. Always.

Don’t be me. Please. I care about you guys too much.


A Piece of Advice


  1. Ricus Maximus Decimus Murilius · July 15, 2016

    Un abrazo Fico! G & Fn’ R is going to be a blast!


    • Fico · July 15, 2016

      Cuando vi ese nombre! I knew! And yes. Axl is going to kick fucking ass!


  2. Vicktaru · July 15, 2016

    You shouldn’t beat up on yourself like that. Don’t worry, this isn’t some kumbaya singing response, I’m going to tell you this post is full of shit. It’s just that you don’t realize it’s full of shit. The problem with something like this is that it leads you to be overly harsh on yourself due to unrealistic expectations.

    Let’s start with the happy part. Happy isn’t an objective quantifiable thing. Being happy with your job is a complete can of worms. It’s a very modern idea that isn’t honestly realistic. Think about how long in the history of civilization that you were just born as a peasant and that was all they could ever possibly be for their entire life. There’s actually an entire set of philosophers/sociologists from the birth of the capitalist state with the Dutch up through the Industrial Revolution that talk about the unrealistic expectation if happiness at work that capitalism brings on a society. If you’re curious about this there are some excellent YouTube videos in the channel The School of Life on the subject. Let’s be real, if I did what I loved for a living I would be homeless. I wouldn’t be able to pay my bills playing video games, reading books, and watching movies. No one is going to pay me for that. No one is going to pay me to lift weights or ride my bicycle. No one is going to pay me for drinking beer with my friends or playing games with my brothers or relaxing at home with my wife. Those are the things that make me happy. None of those things make me money. None of those things are providing a good or service to anyone. None of those are things anyone is going to value enough to give me currency for.

    As for your job, you do have a career. You have a job that can lead you to other employment and in turn get you better positions over time. The problem is that you’ve made some poor decisions at your career. Nothing to beat yourself up over, I have also, everyone does. I think your big mistake was staying at Verizon for so long. Your money in IT comes from working somewhere for a couple of years, increasing your worth as an employee, translating that worth into a resume, and finding a new job that will give you a pay increase of several dollars, instead of getting your annual raise of some change.

    There are only two ways to move up in IT. Well, three ways, but we’re not going to include getting incredibly lucky. You can either find a job that will let you learn on the job, or you can study at home before/after work. The fist is a difficult thing to find, I’ve been working IT as long as you have and I only just found a place like that. I would have never found this place had I not been changing jobs every few years. The latter is just as difficult due to how exhausting this job is. I sure as hell can’t do it. I’ve tried, I’ll get a week or two in and completely burn out. Even people who can do it are sacrificing other aspects of their lives to do so. You’re doing better than you think, and you can do better still if you don’t rely on your current employer to take care of you. They really won’t do it.

    Anyway, keep doing you. You have a place on your own, you have food and a job and can get more jobs going forward. It’s better than you think. Keep being a general bad ass.

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    • Fico · July 15, 2016

      Thank you good sir. You are definitely a savant and well, I think the post really was just more of a vent from shit I have been feeling. The good news is that, at my current job, everyone there is interested in seeing us move up, so if they lose you, well, no hard feelings, you wanted better, let us help you. As for bettering myself, I have been digging in Codecademy for things like CSS/HTML, JavaScript, Rails, Ruby, Python and a bunch of other things. At work they don’t seem to mind me learning as long as I’m not doing it between calls. As for the exhaustion, you are definitely right. You can ask Ann and Noah how they feel when they finish work, and then going through their studies.

      I guess when I meant happy, I meant to get a job or a career, that I am not just making good money, but it’s something I’m proud and passionate about. Something that makes me happy, but not in the way you described. Something like my brother, which is a kickass architect, something that he always wanted to do. That is something I want. To do something, I always wanted to do. Drawing was a thing, but realistically, I would need to learn so much more, and practice my ass off to get to a point where I can ever turn it to a profit. But I guess that can be true with programming or doing IT in general. Openstack was something Chris Demeer, from Verizon, told me about since it was cloud computing and management that was open source, and also Linux. All these things I like, and, I guess I just have to dive in and see what happens and find something that makes me feel something.
      Thanks for the advice. The post is shit, I know. But I guess it was how I was feeling. I followed it with the Doom review, and, I feel better 🙂


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